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I hear what you鈥檙e saying. I catch your drift. How do you express understanding? Most of us have a preferred communication and learning style 鈥� visual, auditory, kinesthetic. Some literature includes a fourth style, reading/writing. To deliver a message more effectively, we often use multiple modes of communication 鈥� for instance, illustrating an oral presentation with PowerPoint slides.

I鈥檓 very much a visual person. If someone asks me 鈥淗ow does this sound?,鈥� I鈥檓 likely to go over to their desk and look at their screen before rendering an opinion. I also have a strong preference for reading and writing (probably not surprising, since I am an editor), and I鈥檓 at my best when I can get a speaker鈥檚 slides in advance, print them out, and take notes directly on the slides.

AIChE鈥檚 Spring Meeting (April 10鈥�14, Houston, TX; ) offers numerous learning opportunities 鈥� technical presentations, poster sessions, keynote addresses, luncheons and other networking events, exhibitor displays, and more. So that I will be able to make the most of those opportunities, I thought this would be a good time to think about honing my listening skills. Here are a few of the tips I came across that go beyond the obvious advice to make eye contact, keep an open mind, don鈥檛 interrupt, give the speaker regular feedback (nod, smile, 鈥渦h-huh鈥�), repeat or paraphrase what you heard, etc.

The most effective form of listening combines active listening with empathy. Empathic listening involves recognizing all verbal and nonverbal cues; understanding the meaning of the messages and keeping track of the points of the conversation; and assuring others that listening has occurred and encouraging communication to continue. We can demonstrate empathic listening with phrases such as: Thank you for sharing how you feel about this situation; You seem excited (upset, happy, etc.) about this issue, and I would like to hear more about your perspective; Here are what I think are your key points; Here are some suggested next steps 鈥� what do you think?; That鈥檚 a great point.

My preference for the visual prompted me to read the transcript of the TED Talk 鈥�10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation,鈥� by Celeste Headlee, host of Georgia Public Broadcasting鈥檚 On Second Thought. (Later I did listen to it and watch it.) Headlee says, 鈥淭here is no reason to learn how to show you鈥檙e paying attention if you are, in fact, paying attention.鈥� Instead, she offers suggestions on how to interview people. She outlines ten basic rules (you can find all of them in her talk at ) and points out that mastering just one of them will enable you to enjoy better conversations. Here are four that you could start with:

• Don鈥檛 pontificate. If you want to state your opinion without any opportunity for response, argument, pushback, or growth, write a blog.
• Ask open-ended questions that start with who, what, when, where, why, orhow.
• Don鈥檛 equate your experience with theirs. You don鈥檛 need to prove how amazing you are.
• Stay out of the weeds. Most people don鈥檛 care about details like dates, names, places; omit them.

This month鈥檚 Young Professionals Point of View column (p. 24) deals with a different kind of interviewing. Editor Emily Frangenberg鈥檚 advice in 鈥淲hat to Ask During an Interview 鈥� And What Questions to Avoid鈥� can help job-seekers have better conversations.